Anal Sex For Beginners

So, you are ready to try anal sex, or at least considering it.  Whether it has been a fantasy of yours for a while now or your significant other proposed the idea to you and it has peaked your interest, you are now trying to gather all the information you can before you jump in with both feet (or both cheeks).  The step up to anal sex is a big one, and many people are terrified that it will hurt and be disgusting, but the truth is, it shouldn’t!  There are a lot of pleasurable feelings associated with anal sex, feelings you were unable to explore before unless you have used an anal sex toy or have been poking around back there a little.  If you are ready to take the next step with your partner and explore a whole new world of sexual endeavors, keep reading this anal sex guide for beginners!

Are You Ready?:  Listen.  If you don’t want to have anal sex, don’t do it.  If the idea horrifies you beyond anything else, don’t do it.  If you think it is the most terrible sex act in all of the animal kingdom, don’t do it.  Make sure you have no reservations when getting into this.  woman ready for anal sexIf your partner proposed the idea to you, make sure that is all it is; an idea.  If he or she has been pressuring you in any way, don’t do it!  This is your decision too, and although there really is nothing to fear when it comes to anal sex, you have a choice to say no.  Whether you just aren’t ready or you are adamant that you never try it, it’s fine!  If you are in a healthy relationship, your lover will understand and still enjoy and appreciate everything else you get to do.

Use Protection:  If you are getting ready to try anal, make sure you have condoms around, especially if you are not in a committed relationship.  Even if you are in a committed relationship, you may want to use condoms for several reasons.  The first reason (and the most important) is that using them is hygienic.  You never, ever, EVER want to switch between anal and oral or vaginal sex without changing the condom and cleaning up first.  This will lower the risk of bacteria getting anywhere it’s not supposed to be!  Using condoms also makes clean up much faster.  Plus, for your first time, you might feel more comfortable with a condom.  If you are concerned with getting excrement on his member, a condom takes care of that!  Another good reason to use a condom is that most of them come with a little bit of lubrication.  Although you will definitely want to bring your own lube for this, a little extra on the condom doesn’t hurt.

Use Lube, Lube, And More Lube:  If you are thinking about having anal sex, you definitely need sufficient lubricant.  Whatever amount you think you will need, use twice as much.  Lubricant not only makes the anal sex less painful (especially for first-timers), but it can make it more pleasurable.  It makes everything nice and slippery so your partner won’t have to push so hard and the two of you can focus on the pleasure!  Any lube will work, but silicone-based lubes are the best.  They are thicker and will last longer than water-based lube.  They even have lubes that will specifically say they are for anal.  You don’t have to get one of these, but they are often a thick, silicone-based lubricant.

Relax And Lie Down:  Make sure you are relaxed.  The tenser you are, the more uncomfortable it will be.  Relax your PC muscles, your hips, back, legs, everything.  If you are still too tense, maybe you can start with a hot bath or sexy massage.  Just don’t proceed until you are really ready!  For beginners, the most comfortable position is for the woman (or the partner being penetrated) to lie flat on her stomach.  This hurts the least and enables you to relax your muscles more easily.  Other positions include doggy style and missionary, but whatever you do, just make sure you are very relaxed and comfortable the first time!  You can explore other sexual positions later if you enjoy your first anal sex experience.

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Everything Is Okay!:  There is probably going to be a lot going through you mind when you try anal sex for the first time.  Don’t worry!  Everything is fine.  If you don’t like it, you can tell your partner to stop and you never have to do it again.  Just consider it a new experience!  If you are afraid you are pooping, don’t worry; you aren’t!  Think about what comes out of our butts normally… One thing, right?  So it’s natural to think that the second thing to ever come out of your butt would feel like you are pooping.  It will feel a lot like it, but you aren’t.  Just keep telling yourself that.  If it hurts a little, you can ask your partner to slow down.  It will probably hurt a little, but it shouldn’t hurt more than it pleasures you!  The head of the penis is typically the most painful part because it is the thickest.  Once you get past that, you will enjoy yourself much more.

Anal sex is nothing to be feared, especially if it is something you are curious about trying.  It might be a little different from what you are used to, but not by much!  The basics are all there:  you and your partner are coming together, exploring each other sexually, and experiencing intense pleasure.  You don’t need to worry so much!  Just relax and enjoy trying something new and exciting!